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What is bereavement trauma?

In a traumatic bereavement, the meaning surrounding the person’s death results in it being experienced as traumatic. The trauma gets in the way of the typical process of grief and blocks one’s ability to process the loss. Sometimes the person gets stuck in this limbo, experiencing a range of emotions and haunted by nostalgia and memories of the past.

It’s a painful place to be in. While trauma can be physical, it is often emotional and psychological. Bereavement trauma is not just about what happened during the death of the person. It can also refer to how you are left feeling afterwards, constantly longing for that person and unable to fully become present to life right now.

When we experience trauma, we can become emotionally dysregulated as our anxiety and overwhelm increases. That arousal of emotions triggers our fight or flight mechanism, leading to panic/ fear driven emotions as our sympathetic nervous system becomes activated. When we become overwhelmed by this mechanism, we can often become frozen by it, dissociating, shutting down and feeling hopeless. Left unprocessed, traumas can also reshape our core self and make us unable to function. We might feel a host of emotions, some of which are explained in this diagram:

At Naked Bereavement, we deliver a structured and supportive 4-month coaching program to support the healing from such a trauma by teaching techniques to stabilize and deactivate that trauma response. Run by Adele Theron, a highly trained Trauma coach, this coaching approach helps you to pinpoint and project manage the triggers from that traumatic time which continue to live on in your day to day life. Whereas therapy focuses on the trauma itself, coaching focuses on strategies and tools to move forward. Coaching is a forward-focused approach which builds healing strategies to deal with those triggers that come up in your day to day life, teaching you to deal with them proactively.

Overcoming traumatic bereavement is a function of processing the loss, learning to live alongside the loss and creating meaning in ones’ life again.

This coaching approach is educational and builds insight, so you can learn how to support yourself to overcome the overwhelm mechanism using a host of techniques you will learn on the program. The program is not designed for people who have acute psychiatric conditions. Those conditions are better supported with medicalised support. If you want to check if the program is a good fit for you, book a Clarity call with someone on our team to talk through if the coaching approach is a good fit for your situation.

What you might be going through in the early stages following traumatic bereavement

With traumatic bereavement, almost everyone will feel jumpy, and it is normal to have intrusive memories of events or things said. Approximately two out of three of people will find that these symptoms fade over time. Other people may find that negative symptoms emerge sometime after the trauma occurred and almost seem to come “out of the blue”. This can seem very confusing, and they may ask themselves “why now?”. The truth is that certain events can trigger Post Traumatic Stress in some people and if not treated, can lead to long-term issues…

Problems sleeping
Problems concentrating or remembering things
Feeling hypervigilant
Upsetting memories come into your mind when you don’t want them to
Intense memories where it feels as though the trauma is happening to you again
Nightmares
Feeling physically and emotionally upset
Feeling disconnected or numb
Feelings of guilt/ shame or panic

Don't just ride the rollercoaster of trauma. Take back control today...

Living with trauma can cause significant health issues both physically and mentally. But with courage, commitment, and action – you can recover and reclaim your life.

20
%

RISK HEART DISEASE

Data: Web MD study conducted in 2019 – check statistics here: www.webmd.com

42
%

RISK OF ADRENAL FATIGUE

Data: National Center for Biotechnology Information www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

56
%

RISK OF ILLNESS

Data: National Center for Biotechnology Information www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov

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Trauma Recovery Program Curriculum

STABILIZATION

Divorce CocoonWe will start with your first session to assess and take a client and clinical history. The first module is focused on restoring balance and creating stabilization. Before we do any processing, we first need to empower you to become grounded and emotionally stable. To begin, you’ll create a strong solid foundation so you have a supportive environment to contain your transformation.

  • We will cover goal setting so we have a clear starting position, ending position and mission
  • The next session we look at your symptoms and put a plan in place to alleviate the stress of those symptoms. We will be looking at daily routines, diet, structure, habits, thought diaries etc. I will assess and give you specific homework, monitoring your progress
  • You will be given special clinical audios to listen to and taught how to resource yourself, to feel completely stabilized
  • You will be in a COCOON – this is the goal

The second module empowers you to practice self-compassion. Self-compassion is a very powerful resource tool which assists in trauma recovery. Often we destroy any lessons we might learn from events which happened because we are so stuck in self loathing or self flagellation. This is unhelpful and unkind to ourselves. Self compassion melts shame, guilt, despair and assists us in building resilience and strength. It’s a very important tool to learn for recovery.

MetamorphosisHere the processing begins. Inside the cocoon, the caterpillar is rapidly healing and changing, preparing to burst out as a beautiful butterfly. A caterpillar CANNOT grow wings without being contained but once contained, the real work can begin…

  • You will outline the principles, mission statement and framework of learning to live alongside the loss
  • We will study your triggers in day to day life and look at the anxious avoidance and depressive avoidance strategies you have adopted to recover. Once ready and resourced, we will begin your Histogram highpoints and lowpoints story whilst continuing the routines and disciplines we have learnt so you are contained throughout the journey
  • We will identify all the top trauma hot spots
  • You will learn 12 techniques to self regulate your emotions and neutralise your triggers and in turn, clarify your needs. We focus on several techniques including TRE, Somatic Trauma Processing, Hakomi breathwork,  Mindfulness, Dialectical Behavioural techniques and Timeline therapy techniques so you can ground yourself and deactivate the trauma response
  • We also utilise relaxation audio programs to assist in the resourcing process
  • We practice forward focused techniques using Polyvagel theory on all those hot spots to neutralize them, understanding the cognitive dissonances which have occurred
  • You will learn to live alongside the loss
  • We will work on neutralizing your coping mechanisms which have produced negative outcomes for you
  • We might additionally make use of other therapies during this step

ReleaseWe continue supporting you in learning different techniques until you feel more empowered to deactivate your own trauma response, you’re now ready to work on your future, dreams and desires.
Reclaim your life and learn to live alongside the loss.

  • We will then work on designing your future and creating meaning in your life once more
  • Forward-focused approaches for living again
  • Integrate the loss into your life without being ruled by it

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